I went to a cousin's wedding a year ago, and as expected, my state of singleness and childlessnes was the subject of interest among my relatives... oh, that and how much weight I've gained since the last time they saw me. [Sigh] What else is new?
Just recently, the same cousin just had her baby christened and got me as one of the godmothers. Fortunately, only a few of my relatives were there. My cousins, as expected, will not grill me on the subject of being unmarried and childless; so, I thought, for once, I will go through this event without being told to get married and have a child, pronto!
But, just as we were about to part ways, my aunt dared to break the silence by asking me what my plans are (Read: Everyone younger than you is getting married and having children, and here you are wasting your time working and travelling. When the hell are you getting married and having children?). And, as usual, I just responded with a sweet smile and changed the subject.
Through the years, I've learned that the best way to go about such a situation is to just keep quiet and not challenge my relatives' ancient beliefs about women and women's roles. I guess I have grown tired of explaining to people over and over why I don't believe in marriage and why having children is not something that I'm dying to do although I love children and I'm working on children's rights... People who decide to marry and have children don't have to explain their choice, so why should I?
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